12 Days to Stop Yelling :: Noble Mother

Day 12: 12 Days to Stop Yelling

Friday, January 1st, 2010

You did it! You have reached the last coaching post toward your goal to yell less. Congratulations! I want to end our 12 day series with an invitation. It isn’t often that we allow ourselves to reflect on our parenting without it being to reprimand ourselves or deepen the gash of guilt we feel for our many mistakes. It may…

Day 11: 12 Days to Stop Yelling

Thursday, December 31st, 2009

We are almost to the end of our series and it is my hope that it has given you some great food for thought and reflection! My goal in presenting these posts to you has been to inspire you to become more mindful when communicating with your little ones. It would defeat the purpose of this series if you have…

Day 10: 12 Days to Stop Yelling

Wednesday, December 30th, 2009

We’ve explored the common reasons we may start yelling when it comes to our children – they may not be listening or they’ve made a poor choice – we’ve even explored the idea that we don’t always take care of ourselves enough. Today, I want to talk to you about something you might not have thought of before… Day 10…

Day 9: 12 Days to Stop Yelling

Tuesday, December 29th, 2009

Something that has significantly reduced my stress, which has reduced my mommy tantrums has been implementing the idea of Kim John Payne’s simplicity. It’s round 2 this week as I again go through the kids’ toys and clothes and get rid of things that they’ve outgrown, are broken, or just need to be stored and recycled for another day. With…

Day 8: 12 Days to Stop Yelling

Monday, December 28th, 2009

Today’s post is connected to our 12-Day Challenge to Stop Yelling. Obviously, it’s no secret that many parents resort to yelling because they believe their child is behaving inappropriately. If your child is behaving inappropriately, your child is communicating to you they are having a problem. Remember, “All behavior is communication.” Your child is making choices throughout her day. Some…

Day 7: 12 Days to Stop Yelling

Saturday, December 26th, 2009

I don’t think you can ignore the idea of exploring what you believe about expressing anger when you’re trying to stop the habit of yelling as a discipline strategy. Obviously, parents yell out of frustration and anger. You would probably agree with me that our society doesn’t seem to be very well versed in having a healthy perspective on anger….

Day 6: 12 Days to Stop Yelling

Thursday, December 24th, 2009

You’re half way to your goal! How are things going on your journey up to this point? You’ve learned a little technique – fewer words, more action. You’ve learned to keep reasonable expectations. You’ve learned to make sure to meet your own needs so you can better meet the needs of your demanding young children. You acknowledge that part of…

Day 5: 12 Days to Stop Yelling

Wednesday, December 23rd, 2009

Disclaimer: The purpose of today’s post is in no way to make you feel like a failure or to instill feelings of guilt. As a mom, I have enough feelings of failure and guilt to last me for years so the last thing I need is more of that! For me, wisdom inspires me and helps me focus on the…

Day 4: 12 Days to Stop Yelling

Tuesday, December 22nd, 2009

You’re on Day 4 of your 12 Day Challenge! By now you may be realizing that you have been expecting too much from your child and because your expectations are often not fulfilled, you feel frustrated and angry with her. I’m sure that just reflecting and striving to implement some of these new strategies has worn you out. Let’s agree…

Day Three: 12 Days to Stop Yelling

Monday, December 21st, 2009

Here you are, already on Day 3 towards your goal to stop yelling. You’ve learned thus far to talk less, act more and to find out how you can create more predictability around some of the tougher times of your day – meal times, bed times, transitions (like getting ready to leave). You know the scene — you have just…