Comments on: Day Three: 12 Days to Stop Yelling http://www.noblemother.com/2009/12/day-three-12-days-to-stop-yelling/ “We can never have a noble race of men until we have a noble race of mothers.” - Elbert Hubbard Wed, 04 Jan 2012 14:57:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Linn http://www.noblemother.com/2009/12/day-three-12-days-to-stop-yelling/comment-page-1/#comment-8362 Linn Thu, 03 Feb 2011 08:32:42 +0000 http://www.noblemother.com/?p=973#comment-8362 Hi Raelee Today was less successful. For the last week I have trailed a new routine, putting my 2-year old down for her nap early morning. I would start our warm meal for the day while she is asleep and we would eat when she wakes up. It has been working really well, less stressful on me.Today we could not follow the new routine and we were all hungry and tired trying to prepare dinner at 5pm. And it didn't work. I still feel positive at least now I am reviewing what has happened and working out ways to avoid it from happening again. I just hope there is a post on how to deal with difficult and repetitive behavior as part of the 12 Days challenge ;-) Hi Raelee

Today was less successful. For the last week I have trailed a new routine, putting my 2-year old down for her nap early morning. I would start our warm meal for the day while she is asleep and we would eat when she wakes up. It has been working really well, less stressful on me.Today we could not follow the new routine and we were all hungry and tired trying to prepare dinner at 5pm. And it didn’t work. I still feel positive at least now I am reviewing what has happened and working out ways to avoid it from happening again.

I just hope there is a post on how to deal with difficult and repetitive behavior as part of the 12 Days challenge ;-)

]]> By: nobleMama http://www.noblemother.com/2009/12/day-three-12-days-to-stop-yelling/comment-page-1/#comment-4348 nobleMama Tue, 22 Dec 2009 16:35:09 +0000 http://www.noblemother.com/?p=973#comment-4348 Hi Karina, I'm so glad that this challenge is helpful! Your little guy is probably very frustrated because, like you said, he can't express himself verbally. My youngest didn't speak until he was about 2.5. We used sign language to help him tell us what he needed. Some of the basic signs like those in this video clip http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hmhsDtV9I1o really helped diffuse things. We were eligible for a speech therapist to come to our home for free (because he was under age 3) to work with him once each week on language skills. But overall, I don't think that was necessary because he was speaking in full sentences very shortly after she started coming and I believe the signs helped him the most. Giving your 3 year old ways to express himself is key to helping him feel less stressed and frustrated. Know that his tantrums are his way of releasing his pent up frustration. Never allow a tantrum to hurt himself, others, or to destroy things. A crying tantrum is normal for his age as you set reasonable limits. I will be addressing how to respond to a tantrum on Day 5, so stay tuned!! Hi Karina,
I’m so glad that this challenge is helpful! Your little guy is probably very frustrated because, like you said, he can’t express himself verbally. My youngest didn’t speak until he was about 2.5. We used sign language to help him tell us what he needed. Some of the basic signs like those in this video clip http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hmhsDtV9I1o really helped diffuse things. We were eligible for a speech therapist to come to our home for free (because he was under age 3) to work with him once each week on language skills. But overall, I don’t think that was necessary because he was speaking in full sentences very shortly after she started coming and I believe the signs helped him the most. Giving your 3 year old ways to express himself is key to helping him feel less stressed and frustrated. Know that his tantrums are his way of releasing his pent up frustration. Never allow a tantrum to hurt himself, others, or to destroy things. A crying tantrum is normal for his age as you set reasonable limits. I will be addressing how to respond to a tantrum on Day 5, so stay tuned!!

]]> By: karina http://www.noblemother.com/2009/12/day-three-12-days-to-stop-yelling/comment-page-1/#comment-4347 karina Tue, 22 Dec 2009 13:36:22 +0000 http://www.noblemother.com/?p=973#comment-4347 Thanks Raelee for this challenge. Last 3 days were a little bit easier and kids seem to be less tensed. I still can't adjust routine. It's hard to start to establish it when you are full time working mom. I’m taking 5 days vacation from Thursday and will work on establishing rhymes. I hope it’ll work. My biggest tense right now is youngest. He is 3 now and last 2 weeks he has tantrums, whenever he doesn’t get what he wants. He still doesn’t speak and it makes a little bit harder to deal with his tantrums. Thanks Raelee for this challenge. Last 3 days were a little bit easier and kids seem to be less tensed. I still can’t adjust routine. It’s hard to start to establish it when you are full time working mom. I’m taking 5 days vacation from Thursday and will work on establishing rhymes. I hope it’ll work. My biggest tense right now is youngest. He is 3 now and last 2 weeks he has tantrums, whenever he doesn’t get what he wants. He still doesn’t speak and it makes a little bit harder to deal with his tantrums.

]]> By: nobleMama http://www.noblemother.com/2009/12/day-three-12-days-to-stop-yelling/comment-page-1/#comment-4345 nobleMama Tue, 22 Dec 2009 01:42:47 +0000 http://www.noblemother.com/?p=973#comment-4345 Inna - awesome to hear that you had a less tense day today! Listen, I wouldn't be posting these ideas if they weren't to help me too. I have to work at the expectations every day myself =) These kids keep me on my toes. Inna – awesome to hear that you had a less tense day today! Listen, I wouldn’t be posting these ideas if they weren’t to help me too. I have to work at the expectations every day myself =) These kids keep me on my toes.

]]> By: Ginny Marie http://www.noblemother.com/2009/12/day-three-12-days-to-stop-yelling/comment-page-1/#comment-4344 Ginny Marie Tue, 22 Dec 2009 01:29:05 +0000 http://www.noblemother.com/?p=973#comment-4344 I have had to remind myself of this when getting my daughter ready for preschool! I want her to become independent, but at the same time I need to remember that the concept of time is still abstract to her. Great tips! I have had to remind myself of this when getting my daughter ready for preschool! I want her to become independent, but at the same time I need to remember that the concept of time is still abstract to her. Great tips!

]]> By: Inna http://www.noblemother.com/2009/12/day-three-12-days-to-stop-yelling/comment-page-1/#comment-4343 Inna Tue, 22 Dec 2009 01:17:08 +0000 http://www.noblemother.com/?p=973#comment-4343 Thanks Raelee, talk about being right on point! I'm working on adjusting my expectations, and we had an excellent 100% tension free awesome day. Talk about a gift for the holidays! Now on to bedtime. Keeping my fingers crossed that things continue to go smoothly. Thanks Raelee, talk about being right on point! I’m working on adjusting my expectations, and we had an excellent 100% tension free awesome day. Talk about a gift for the holidays! Now on to bedtime. Keeping my fingers crossed that things continue to go smoothly.

]]> By: nobleMama http://www.noblemother.com/2009/12/day-three-12-days-to-stop-yelling/comment-page-1/#comment-4338 nobleMama Mon, 21 Dec 2009 14:06:57 +0000 http://www.noblemother.com/?p=973#comment-4338 Angie, you're completely right about this and I will be posting about this concept you're speaking as part of this series. We're so used to pulling our children out of their imaginative worlds and creativity to get back to "reality" with our requests and demands "time to go!" and so your suggestion here of helping them stay in that beautiful world they've created and making it work in "our" world is just perfect. The example you share is great. Another is when I need the children to begin cleaning up I might say, "hurry, the wicked stepmother is coming and she'll turn us all into frogs if we don't clean up this mess." Angie, you’re completely right about this and I will be posting about this concept you’re speaking as part of this series. We’re so used to pulling our children out of their imaginative worlds and creativity to get back to “reality” with our requests and demands “time to go!” and so your suggestion here of helping them stay in that beautiful world they’ve created and making it work in “our” world is just perfect. The example you share is great. Another is when I need the children to begin cleaning up I might say, “hurry, the wicked stepmother is coming and she’ll turn us all into frogs if we don’t clean up this mess.”

]]> By: angie http://www.noblemother.com/2009/12/day-three-12-days-to-stop-yelling/comment-page-1/#comment-4335 angie Mon, 21 Dec 2009 12:43:24 +0000 http://www.noblemother.com/?p=973#comment-4335 Thank you so much for writing this. It is so hard to get a child to cooperate at times...I find myself wanting to yell more with my teens than with my younger children. They are not as easily "encouraged" to do what you want. One thing that has helped with the young ones is to engage in whatever they are doing at the time I need them to do something else...for instance, if my daughter is playing with dolls say "the babies need their rest time now" with complete enthusiasm. I often have to manipulate my own interests to encourage her to "flow" with me. Thank you so much for writing this. It is so hard to get a child to cooperate at times…I find myself wanting to yell more with my teens than with my younger children. They are not as easily “encouraged” to do what you want. One thing that has helped with the young ones is to engage in whatever they are doing at the time I need them to do something else…for instance, if my daughter is playing with dolls say “the babies need their rest time now” with complete enthusiasm. I often have to manipulate my own interests to encourage her to “flow” with me.

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