Comments on: Day One: 12 Days to Stop Yelling http://www.noblemother.com/2009/12/day-one-12-days-to-stop-yelling/ “We can never have a noble race of men until we have a noble race of mothers.” - Elbert Hubbard Wed, 04 Jan 2012 14:57:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Wits End http://www.noblemother.com/2009/12/day-one-12-days-to-stop-yelling/comment-page-1/#comment-29460 Wits End Mon, 28 Nov 2011 08:17:07 +0000 http://www.noblemother.com/?p=965#comment-29460 It is nice to know that I am alone. I think this is the first benefit of this site. The guilt alone makes me feel like I am the worst person on the planet. To my kid I probably am. But at least I know that it is more common ( sadly ) than I thought. I start my day one tomorrow and look forward to changing. No one especially a kid deserves to be yelled at. Imagine if your boss or someone in your adult circle talked to you like that... what would you with your developed emotions think or feel. Then think of these little parts of us.. depending on us for everything both physical and psychological.. and we scream at them... I feel ashamed.. It is nice to know that I am alone. I think this is the first benefit of this site. The guilt alone makes me feel like I am the worst person on the planet. To my kid I probably am. But at least I know that it is more common ( sadly ) than I thought. I start my day one tomorrow and look forward to changing. No one especially a kid deserves to be yelled at.
Imagine if your boss or someone in your adult circle talked to you like that… what would you with your developed emotions think or feel. Then think of these little parts of us.. depending on us for everything both physical and psychological.. and we scream at them… I feel ashamed..

]]> By: Emily http://www.noblemother.com/2009/12/day-one-12-days-to-stop-yelling/comment-page-1/#comment-9035 Emily Thu, 03 Mar 2011 16:11:02 +0000 http://www.noblemother.com/?p=965#comment-9035 Day one went swimmingly. Less talking really supported listening! Day one went swimmingly. Less talking really supported listening!

]]> By: The Snow is Always Funner on the Other Side of the Window (yeah, I said it.) « The Pregnant Vegetarian http://www.noblemother.com/2009/12/day-one-12-days-to-stop-yelling/comment-page-1/#comment-8591 The Snow is Always Funner on the Other Side of the Window (yeah, I said it.) « The Pregnant Vegetarian Tue, 15 Feb 2011 12:02:00 +0000 http://www.noblemother.com/?p=965#comment-8591 [...] -Speaking of grace, the yelling has to stop. It’s time. [...] [...] -Speaking of grace, the yelling has to stop. It’s time. [...]

]]> By: Linn http://www.noblemother.com/2009/12/day-one-12-days-to-stop-yelling/comment-page-1/#comment-8327 Linn Tue, 01 Feb 2011 07:18:36 +0000 http://www.noblemother.com/?p=965#comment-8327 Hi Raelee I have read your article on the Parenting Passageway and hopped over to your blog. I enjoyed what I was reading and my eye caught the "12 Days to stop yelling" I have a daughter in the middle of the Terrific Two's and a son who is an Exuberant but very sensitive 4-year old. Needles to say there has been days that I have been feeling a little overwhelmed. I have found myself yelling at the kids when frustrated and I have tried to stop without great success. I feel that your "12 Days' will actually provide me with the tools to change my behavior. Even though nobody might read my comments I plan to write every day to keep myself on track. I have had great success today, only used my 'loud voice' once, when somebody stepped on my toes. I feel very proud of myself for keeping quiet and calm. And I think the kids were less noisy. Thanks for taking the time to write you blog and best from a sunny New Zealand Hi Raelee

I have read your article on the Parenting Passageway and hopped over to your blog. I enjoyed what I was reading and my eye caught the “12 Days to stop yelling” I have a daughter in the middle of the Terrific Two’s and a son who is an Exuberant but very sensitive 4-year old. Needles to say there has been days that I have been feeling a little overwhelmed. I have found myself yelling at the kids when frustrated and I have tried to stop without great success. I feel that your “12 Days’ will actually provide me with the tools to change my behavior.
Even though nobody might read my comments I plan to write every day to keep myself on track.
I have had great success today, only used my ‘loud voice’ once, when somebody stepped on my toes. I feel very proud of myself for keeping quiet and calm. And I think the kids were less noisy.
Thanks for taking the time to write you blog and best from a sunny New Zealand

]]> By: Beth http://www.noblemother.com/2009/12/day-one-12-days-to-stop-yelling/comment-page-1/#comment-8156 Beth Fri, 21 Jan 2011 21:23:11 +0000 http://www.noblemother.com/?p=965#comment-8156 I find this useful as a teacher. It is amazing how much I can get across with a smile, nod and point. Thank you on behalf of my 27 kindergarteners! I find this useful as a teacher. It is amazing how much I can get across with a smile, nod and point. Thank you on behalf of my 27 kindergarteners!

]]> By: nobleMama http://www.noblemother.com/2009/12/day-one-12-days-to-stop-yelling/comment-page-1/#comment-8137 nobleMama Thu, 20 Jan 2011 19:17:48 +0000 http://www.noblemother.com/?p=965#comment-8137 Kimberly, it's never too late, mama! ;) Kimberly, it’s never too late, mama! ;)

]]> By: nobleMama http://www.noblemother.com/2009/12/day-one-12-days-to-stop-yelling/comment-page-1/#comment-8136 nobleMama Thu, 20 Jan 2011 19:16:34 +0000 http://www.noblemother.com/?p=965#comment-8136 Hi Jessica, Creating a predictable bedtime routine can definitely help. For example: dinner, bath, jammies, snack, brush teeth/lay out clothes, story (only 1), light a candle to sing a soft song or for prayers or back rubbing time to provide more physical contact. The key is to make this stick like clockwork - keep as predictable as possible and it becomes the formula for your children to let go into sleep. After dinner, a routine like this is typically about 1 hour long with the last 20 minutes or so taking place in their room with them. Sometimes little ones do need our presence to drift off. Use your intuition to see if your expectations have been too high for them to let you leave them - if you think they are capable of it and you have a very calming bedtime routine like this example, then the best response to little jack-in-the-boxes is to non-emotionally lead them back to their bed without anger or extra kisses. For a 4 and 5 year old the best time frame for bedtime is 6pm dinner, planning for a 7:30pm in bed, ready for sleep. I work with parents to create more predictability so use my contact page or visit my coaching page if you think you might want to set up a free introductory coaching call. Best of luck, mama! Hi Jessica,
Creating a predictable bedtime routine can definitely help. For example: dinner, bath, jammies, snack, brush teeth/lay out clothes, story (only 1), light a candle to sing a soft song or for prayers or back rubbing time to provide more physical contact. The key is to make this stick like clockwork – keep as predictable as possible and it becomes the formula for your children to let go into sleep. After dinner, a routine like this is typically about 1 hour long with the last 20 minutes or so taking place in their room with them. Sometimes little ones do need our presence to drift off. Use your intuition to see if your expectations have been too high for them to let you leave them – if you think they are capable of it and you have a very calming bedtime routine like this example, then the best response to little jack-in-the-boxes is to non-emotionally lead them back to their bed without anger or extra kisses. For a 4 and 5 year old the best time frame for bedtime is 6pm dinner, planning for a 7:30pm in bed, ready for sleep. I work with parents to create more predictability so use my contact page or visit my coaching page if you think you might want to set up a free introductory coaching call. Best of luck, mama!

]]> By: Jessica http://www.noblemother.com/2009/12/day-one-12-days-to-stop-yelling/comment-page-1/#comment-8133 Jessica Thu, 20 Jan 2011 17:38:46 +0000 http://www.noblemother.com/?p=965#comment-8133 I do ok (not great, needs work, but ok) with the tasks mentioned above and keeping my cool, but I find that the yelling really starts at bedtime. I have a 4 and 5 year old and ater the 10th time they have gotten out of bed or called for me from their rooms, I loose it. I get so frustrated and finally start yelling and making threats of lost privledges. Any thoughts on how to keep my cool at bedtime and still get them to bed at a decent hour? I do ok (not great, needs work, but ok) with the tasks mentioned above and keeping my cool, but I find that the yelling really starts at bedtime. I have a 4 and 5 year old and ater the 10th time they have gotten out of bed or called for me from their rooms, I loose it. I get so frustrated and finally start yelling and making threats of lost privledges. Any thoughts on how to keep my cool at bedtime and still get them to bed at a decent hour?

]]> By: Kimberly http://www.noblemother.com/2009/12/day-one-12-days-to-stop-yelling/comment-page-1/#comment-8129 Kimberly Thu, 20 Jan 2011 15:18:21 +0000 http://www.noblemother.com/?p=965#comment-8129 Started with this today. Hope it's not too late for my family. My boys are 14 and 11. I figure better late than never, right? Started with this today. Hope it’s not too late for my family. My boys are 14 and 11. I figure better late than never, right?

]]> By: Anger Management For Moms — Discipline Project http://www.noblemother.com/2009/12/day-one-12-days-to-stop-yelling/comment-page-1/#comment-8128 Anger Management For Moms — Discipline Project Thu, 20 Jan 2011 14:24:33 +0000 http://www.noblemother.com/?p=965#comment-8128 [...] the next 12 days, I will be following Noble Mother’s 12 Days to Stop Yelling and I’ll post my progress every day. Today’s task is to talk less and act more. When [...] [...] the next 12 days, I will be following Noble Mother’s 12 Days to Stop Yelling and I’ll post my progress every day. Today’s task is to talk less and act more. When [...]

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