Comments on: Day 5: 12 Days to Stop Yelling http://www.noblemother.com/2009/12/day-5-12-days-to-stop-yelling/ “We can never have a noble race of men until we have a noble race of mothers.” - Elbert Hubbard Wed, 04 Jan 2012 14:57:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Jeanette Kasper http://www.noblemother.com/2009/12/day-5-12-days-to-stop-yelling/comment-page-1/#comment-9145 Jeanette Kasper Tue, 08 Mar 2011 18:14:27 +0000 http://www.noblemother.com/?p=978#comment-9145 Excellent blog and discussions! My kids are 16, 19, and 23 and I'm pretty much in control of my yelling and anger these days. There were hard years, though, and the guilt is horrid. One of my best learnings was to set 5 disciplines for my kids (different for each kid) it was 5 of their favorite things that I was willing to take away for 20 minutes up to 7 days max (when they hit 11 years old and older). So I knew what I was disciplining for and I didn't have to try to make something up on the spot ("you're grounded for 30 years" never worked anyway). I calmed down a lot once I knew 'what to expect' and so did they. They could lose 1 - 5 of those favorites, and they still had to follow through with what I had asked them to do. I'm looking forward to reading the next 7 days! Jeanette Excellent blog and discussions! My kids are 16, 19, and 23 and I’m pretty much in control of my yelling and anger these days. There were hard years, though, and the guilt is horrid.
One of my best learnings was to set 5 disciplines for my kids (different for each kid) it was 5 of their favorite things that I was willing to take away for 20 minutes up to 7 days max (when they hit 11 years old and older). So I knew what I was disciplining for and I didn’t have to try to make something up on the spot (“you’re grounded for 30 years” never worked anyway). I calmed down a lot once I knew ‘what to expect’ and so did they. They could lose 1 – 5 of those favorites, and they still had to follow through with what I had asked them to do.

I’m looking forward to reading the next 7 days!
Jeanette

]]> By: Linn http://www.noblemother.com/2009/12/day-5-12-days-to-stop-yelling/comment-page-1/#comment-8391 Linn Sat, 05 Feb 2011 07:23:39 +0000 http://www.noblemother.com/?p=978#comment-8391 Hi Today was more successful. I stayed calm and navigated some difficult moments very effectively. When I read 'The kingdom of childhood' I realized the effect of my yelling on the children but didn't know how to stop. I am starting to feel as if I am gaining the tools to handle and guard against feeling so overwhelmed and I am learning to intervene earlier, before a behavior is soooo driving me up the wall that I just want to yell. Hi
Today was more successful. I stayed calm and navigated some difficult moments very effectively. When I read ‘The kingdom of childhood’ I realized the effect of my yelling on the children but didn’t know how to stop. I am starting to feel as if I am gaining the tools to handle and guard against feeling so overwhelmed and I am learning to intervene earlier, before a behavior is soooo driving me up the wall that I just want to yell.

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