Comments on: Am I Selfish For Wanting Quiet Time? http://www.noblemother.com/2009/09/am-i-selfish-for-wanting-quiet-time/ “We can never have a noble race of men until we have a noble race of mothers.” - Elbert Hubbard Fri, 03 Sep 2010 18:49:20 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Juliet http://www.noblemother.com/2009/09/am-i-selfish-for-wanting-quiet-time/comment-page-1/#comment-4274 Juliet Thu, 01 Oct 2009 15:56:51 +0000 http://www.noblemother.com/?p=929#comment-4274 I really appreciate your response here, Raelee. I don't know why it seems like we judge ourselves so harshly as mothers for just having normal human needs. I've definitely felt bad at times about not being able to keep up with my child's desire for constant interaction, and I've heard many other moms say the same thing. Their comments might include the words, "selfish," or even "I feel like a bad mother." Very sad. So thank you for promoting the idea that everybody can get what they need and it's not about mom being "selfish." Besides, if we don't model for our kids how to get our needs met while living in a loving family, how are they going to learn that when they have kids? I really appreciate your response here, Raelee. I don’t know why it seems like we judge ourselves so harshly as mothers for just having normal human needs. I’ve definitely felt bad at times about not being able to keep up with my child’s desire for constant interaction, and I’ve heard many other moms say the same thing. Their comments might include the words, “selfish,” or even “I feel like a bad mother.” Very sad.

So thank you for promoting the idea that everybody can get what they need and it’s not about mom being “selfish.” Besides, if we don’t model for our kids how to get our needs met while living in a loving family, how are they going to learn that when they have kids?

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