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Does My Child Need Religion?

6 August 2008 85 views 4 Comments

The short answer? Yes.

O Thou kind Lord! These lovely children are the handiwork of the fingers of Thy might and wondrous signs of Thy greatness. O God! Protect these children, graciously assist them to be educated and enable them to render service to the world of humanity. O God! These children are pearls, cause them to be nurtured within the shell of Thy loving-kindness.

Thou art the Bountiful, the All-Loving. ~Baha’i Prayers

Does it matter what faith you practice? Not really. If your faith helps guide you and helps you understand what to teach your children about right and wrong, about virtues of honesty, justice, love, and compassion, then it will give your child a good moral foundation.

All faiths provide structure and an awareness of something greater than ourselves. The fellowship that community life provides can be very rewarding for children. Holidays become more meaningful when they are within a faith context.

Many families have abandoned their faiths of origin due to a negative experience or disagreement with the doctrine. I encourage you to explore finding a religious community for the sake of your children, one that you feel is loving and safe. The world is a big place and your children need belief, faith, and answers in order for them to truly discover their own purpose.

We can fool ourselves and think that life is about finding happiness, but really we will never find contentment if we do not know the purpose of our own lives. Finding the right faith community will not be easy. Perhaps deciding on whether you’re looking for a community that provides wonderful family support would work for you, or a community where the principles of the faith inspire and uplift you, or one that focuses on acts of service. Not every community will have everything.

Children who are given a religious context, especially with the guidance of intentional parents, will manage life’s problems with more ease and less confusion. If you raise your child to “choose a religion for himself” it, more than likely, will be that your child will choose no religion at all. It is much more difficult to make a choice when you have no initial foundation or context for the concept of God or religion. Growing up “something” allows an individual to know what they are or are not looking for.

…There is a pressing challenge to be faced: Our children need to be nurtured spiritually…They should not be left to drift in a world so laden with moral dangers. In the current state of society, children face a cruel fate. Millions and millions in country after country are dislocated socially. Children find themselves alienated by parents and other adults whether they live in conditions of wealth or poverty. This alienation has its roots in a selfishness that is born of materialism that is at the core of the godlessness seizing the hearts of people everywhere.
~Universal House of Justice

4 Comments »

  • dragonflydm said:

    You are absolutely right that your kids need to be given a little spiritual guidance.

    Our spiritual life dictates our moral compass. Living an ethical life is living a life without remorse or fearlessly standing out in the sun.

    Faith also guides the culture of home too. A culture of faith is like any other culture. You can be Mexican and believe in Islam. You can be Chinese and believe in Jesus. Our religious culture effects us just as strongly as our ethnic, geographic and economic cultures do.

  • noblemama (author) said:

    Thanks so much for your thoughtful response to my post. It is so evident how much my religion has guided the culture of my home. Very well said.

  • Lindsay said:

    I am so glad that you wrote about this.

    We are role models to our children and as believers we owe it to our children to teach them about our beliefs.

    My favorite song is by Mark Harris “Find Your Wings”. It tells how a parents love gives the children roots to help them “find their wings’ and live a wonderful, passion filled, Christian life.

  • Jana said:

    I am so happy to read the above comments. I agree that it is incredibly important to give our children a foundation of faith, no matter which religion that foundation belongs to. My friend and I recently had a conversation about religion. She was brought up with “nothing” and is not sure if she believes in God or not. It seems to me to be a scary place to come from. All of my decisions, large and small, are made with the principals of my faith being called continually to mind. I would be lost without it! It would make parenting all the more difficult. My kids benefit from having a moral compass as well. My 4-year old recently asked me quite seriously, “Mom, are there really bad people in the world?” I explained how blessed she is to be brought up knowing what virtues are, what they look like when they are practiced and received. She is blessed to know that God loves her and will always be there for her. I explained that others have not been so lucky; that “bad people” (or people with bad behavior) haven’t been brought up with knowing who they are in the sight of God. We have since had many conversations about this issue. I want her to realize how important her faith is.

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